Research Post Only:
Some of my posts like this one - are just for me to store and share some links and resources to various themes around mindfulness. I won't have time to write about all of the links and resources but if you are interested in researching these areas further then hopefully these links will help. I will keep adding to this post as I find things.
- Article on PsychCentral website, July, 2012: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/07/30/how-mindfulness-can-improve-your-relationship/
- Book - http://www.shambhala.com/how-to-be-an-adult-in-relationships.html
- Website - Mindful: http://www.mindful.org/in-love-and-relationships/intimate-relationships
- Website with articles: http://susanpiver.com/works/work-type/articles/
- A note about communication/dialogue: http://secularbuddhism.org/2013/10/09/some-notes-on-mindful-dialogue/
Thich Naht Hahn has mantras which he feels can help relationships. I will explore this in the future but here is the essence of it:
1. Being there for your partner - being truly present. Not preoccupied. 'How can you love if you are not there?'
2. Know that the other person is there and recognise the presence of the other one. You recognise how precious that is. Recognise that they exist.
3. When your loved one suffers, make sure that they know that you acknowledge their suffering and you are there for them.
4. When you suffer - potentially because of something your partner has said or done - try your best to acknowledge your suffering and share how you feel with your partner. Ask them to help you with your suffering.
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